Joyful Minds, Open HeartsOvercoming Negativity Addiction

Pema Chodron is the ultimate Overcoming Negativity Addiction teacher! Her word “Shenpa” and being triggered, same thing!

Biologically speaking, when you resist your triggers, fight them, act out on them, indulge in the storyline, you emit uncomfortable biochemicals, and it keeps you from the present moment where enlightenment is waiting and beckoning for us.

Learn to trigger surf instead where you observe the discomfort with the same peace you would have drinking a cup of tea in the bathtub, saying, “ahhhh. There it is.  I am triggered again. Very interesting.”

Then, you lean into the emotions while staying open and compassionate to yourself and all others, and here is the hard but most important part…

When you are triggered, GET OUT OF THE STORYLINE in your head, and sink down into your heart and FEEL the emotions without any “he said/she said, I did this, they did that, etc. etc.” thinking in your head. Just feel the fear, pain, sadness, grief, anger, whatever and it will wash over you while you sit in awareness consciousness, and in three minutes, the wave of emotion crests, breaks, and recedes. And that is how we stay in the present moment no matter what is coming up for us.

Because the triggers just are. The emotions just are. We don’t have to add the miserable storylines that take us out of the perfect present moment.

Love and Happy Biochemicals,

Denise

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I had a dream the other night where I was speaking to a Spiritual Master and I was asking him how to Love myself more and his reply was to “Love Others.”

And I then asked, “How is that loving myself?”

He then said, “Because your body extends out further than you realize. It includes everybody else. When you are loving others, you are loving your own body because others are a part of your body.”

When I awoke, I had this image of everyone and everything being a part of my “extended body” and that how I treated others is no different than how I treat my own arms or legs. This put me deeply into a sense of oneness with all of life.

When I love myself, I love others. When I love others, I love myself, because, in truth…there is no “other”.

So, when you get “triggered” by others, as we discuss in the Overcoming Negativity Addiction Program, it’s important to remember that you have a choice in that moment to love yourself more.

If that person isn’t loving to you, it’s only because they are caught in their negativity addiction and can’t see the truth. That you are them. Therefore, it means they’re not treating themselves very kindly by mistreating you.

Hopefully, this will inspire in you a wonderful vibeswitch of having compassion for them for treating you (a part of them) so unkindly. It’s like watching someone who has lung cancer chain smoke. They are addicted to something that hurts them. When anyone is unkind to you at any time, it is only because they too are addicted to negativity which hurts them.

Send them your love.

When you do, your self esteem will increase dramatically, because you have just given yourself the greatest kindness in the form of loving yourself in another.

Love and Happy Biochemicals,
Denise

Every newly born being comes into this world with totally innocent eyes. A heart full of wonder, a Soul full of Love.

That innocence is still within us, in fact it’s all that’s real about us, when we drop the story of who we think we are and just return to BE-ing.

We’re happy, like newborns, to flow with the “Is-ness” of this moment, indescribable bliss, whether we’re joyful or sad, it’s all just plain beautiful and our Loving Awareness is fulfilled with whatever is right there in front of us.

Look around you.

Listen within.

This moment is alive with everything!

Love is literally in the air as it is what builds all the particles of existence. Your awareness, your bare attention, is the paradise you’ve been looking for all your life.

And, it’s right here.

Right now.

Always has been.

Look at something near you right now. Drop your ideas about it, your stories, your expectations, your preconceptions…Now, really look at it. In it, you will find all of eternity. The bliss beyond even the idea of bliss.

Love and happy biochemicals,

Denise