Joyful Minds, Open HeartsOvercoming Negativity Addiction

Boy, did I ever have an eye opener today as far as my negativity addiction is concerned!

For the last few days, I had been “noticing” that my husband seemed to be kind of “negative” and, because it felt “uncomfortable to be around him” when he was “negative”, I had asked him to try to be more positive so as not to “mess up” my “happy vibrations”.

I put a lot of those words in quotes because what I was really doing was looking for an excuse to indulge my own negativity addiction by pointing fingers at how people around me are negative.

What a JOKE!

This “noticing others’ negativity” is a sometimes subtle (to others not so subtle) form of negativity addiction. The trigger is when our own minds are trained to look at how negative everyone around us is so we can indulge our own addictions rather than focusing on other peoples’ good qualities, which we could just as easily do if we weren’t indulging our addiction!

My poor husband, who was in a really good mood until I told him that he was being negative!

So I went on a run and said a little prayer to my Spirit Guide and I asked what I could do to “help” my husband to not be so “negative” and then received the cosmic kick in the a** I needed, which was:

Spirit Guide’s response:

“Love your husband.”

I thought, “No, what can I do?”

I received:

“Accept your husband as he is and love him.”

Surely, the Universe wasn’t understanding. HE was being negative.

Then I received this download (that I promptly updated on my facebook account so as not to forget):

Ever notice how the most negative people seem to be the ones who constantly complain that everyone around them is negative? That’s because we can just as easily choose to focus on one good quality in another person rather than dwelling on their “issues” and when we don’t, it’s because we’re in our own addiction to negativity.

There it was. My negativity addiction BUSTED again by my nonphysical friends!

So if you are someone who seems to be constantly surrounded by “negative people”, maybe take a second look and see how those people may be mirroring your own choice to focus on what’s wrong in another human being. Each human is both light and dark/positive-negative. There are no purely “negative people”. It is how we choose to look at them that creates our reality of them in our own body chemistry.

The antidote for me to judging someone else for being “negative” is threefold. Try one and see if works for you:

1. LOVE and SERVE them. When I get into love and service, most of the time they “miraculously” get more positive!
2. Hold the compassion note for them. If they are in their addiction to negativity, the last thing they need is for some chump to keep pointing it out to them in a judgemental way. Instead, I can just feel compassion for them.
3. NOTICE the ways that they are positive and how they lift you up. Make lists on post-it notes, or out loud during the day, of all the ways that person does lift your moods. I bet you will find you will be surprised by the positive/light aspects of that person when you start focusing on those aspects.

Remember, everybody is doing the best they can, including you. Don’t judge yourself for judging others. Instead, vibeswitch back into a happy feeling and move on until the next time you’re triggered!

Love and Happy Biochemicals,
Denise