Joyful Minds, Open HeartsOvercoming Negativity Addiction

I had a dream the other night where I was speaking to a Spiritual Master and I was asking him how to Love myself more and his reply was to “Love Others.”

And I then asked, “How is that loving myself?”

He then said, “Because your body extends out further than you realize. It includes everybody else. When you are loving others, you are loving your own body because others are a part of your body.”

When I awoke, I had this image of everyone and everything being a part of my “extended body” and that how I treated others is no different than how I treat my own arms or legs. This put me deeply into a sense of oneness with all of life.

When I love myself, I love others. When I love others, I love myself, because, in truth…there is no “other”.

So, when you get “triggered” by others, as we discuss in the Overcoming Negativity Addiction Program, it’s important to remember that you have a choice in that moment to love yourself more.

If that person isn’t loving to you, it’s only because they are caught in their negativity addiction and can’t see the truth. That you are them. Therefore, it means they’re not treating themselves very kindly by mistreating you.

Hopefully, this will inspire in you a wonderful vibeswitch of having compassion for them for treating you (a part of them) so unkindly. It’s like watching someone who has lung cancer chain smoke. They are addicted to something that hurts them. When anyone is unkind to you at any time, it is only because they too are addicted to negativity which hurts them.

Send them your love.

When you do, your self esteem will increase dramatically, because you have just given yourself the greatest kindness in the form of loving yourself in another.

Love and Happy Biochemicals,
Denise

Every newly born being comes into this world with totally innocent eyes. A heart full of wonder, a Soul full of Love.

That innocence is still within us, in fact it’s all that’s real about us, when we drop the story of who we think we are and just return to BE-ing.

We’re happy, like newborns, to flow with the “Is-ness” of this moment, indescribable bliss, whether we’re joyful or sad, it’s all just plain beautiful and our Loving Awareness is fulfilled with whatever is right there in front of us.

Look around you.

Listen within.

This moment is alive with everything!

Love is literally in the air as it is what builds all the particles of existence. Your awareness, your bare attention, is the paradise you’ve been looking for all your life.

And, it’s right here.

Right now.

Always has been.

Look at something near you right now. Drop your ideas about it, your stories, your expectations, your preconceptions…Now, really look at it. In it, you will find all of eternity. The bliss beyond even the idea of bliss.

Love and happy biochemicals,

Denise

Today was groooooooooooooovy! I am really getting the hang of this Overcoming Negativity Addiction program!

I started out in the morning feeling a little sad. Trying not to be sad felt like NA, so I let myself feel it and within about five minutes it was gone.

I started to think that the mind is like waves. They come and go and when you can watch it all, like a scientist, then you don’t get that ‘clamping down’ feeling where you get your biochemicals engaged. This book, “Joy of Living” is really helping me to be the observer of my mind rather than the reactor to my mind.

I used allowing and surrender and letting everything be exactly as it is as my vibe switch of the day, whether it was emotions, other people, even food I ate! I took my dad to this wonderful restaurant, had a big salad and a little taste of what he was eating and I just felt really happy not being militant with myself about what I was eating (especially around the holidays). I was in total self allowing and it felt REALLY good today.

I truly enjoyed last night’s Free ONA support call and felt like we all expanded through our triggers! It was TOTALLY AWESOME!

Today, there was a situation I was feeling I was forcing a little bit and I TOTALLY surrendered and let it go, and literally felt my biochemicals get happier. I LOVE that feeling when my biochemicals get all snuggly and happy again! And, of course, the SECOND, literally, the SECOND I let it go, the person called me and the whole situation came flowing to me once again.

I am so happy studying my mind like a scientist. I did so horribly in chemistry class in school, but now I pride myself on being a chemist learning the formula for consistently happy biochemicals.

Also, I said last night on the call that no one vibeswitch fits everybody and no one vibe switch fits one person at different times. It’s like jazz. Flowing, changing, shifting. One day, being assertive and taking lots of actions is going to get your biochemicals feeling groovy. The next day, surrender, letting go, not saying much, is going to feel great biochemically.

This is why it’s so important that you keep a journal so that you can log in your inner chemistry experiments. With curiosity, ask yourself, “hmmmm, what is really going to get my biochemicals happy in this moment?” The answer to that question changes from day to day, moment to moment, so you have to keep asking it. Sometimes, crying and letting it all out feels better biochemically. Other days, laughing and making fun of your situation feels better biochemically.

Remember, your vibe switches are unique to you. One person’s vibe switches are another person’s negativity addiction. That’s why it’s so important to get to know your triggers and your unique ways to vibe switch!

Love and Happy Biochemicals,
Denise

A lot of people have come to me saying, “I stopped doing ONA because I felt so guilty for relapsing or indulging the chemicals and so they said “What the heck, why try again?”

Just remember, that guilty voice is just part of the addiction talking. We ALL relapse at times.

Thinking is sticky business. If we didn’t ever relapse we’d all be Ghandi or Christ or Buddha and even those folks said it isn’t easy to get enlightened.

I truly am starting to feel that relapsing is part of recovering!!! Because we become more and more the WITNESS to our relapses, watching ourselves go through the indulging and that witness is our Soul who is always at peace.

The more we Identify ourselves with that AWARENESS (remember 70% of recovery is awareness of indulgence), then the more at peace we are.

Don’t be a slave to your scary thought trains any more!

Recommit.

Join us in class tonight or take the ONA program.

Remember, you paint your world with the thoughts you think. The bio-chemicals in your body caused by your habitual thoughts dictate your experience of the entire world around you.