Posted by Denise | Posted in Daily Journal | Posted on 18-10-2009
Tags: Hollywood, Sixty Seconds, Surrender
Today was wonderful because I found myself triggered by a certain person I am working with. This person, who has been so kind, warm, and wonderful but has definite opinions and ideas about what is right for this movie I am making.
My negativity addiction has been triggered over this person for a couple of weeks now, but I hadn’t noticed when I was triggered or that I was indulging for hours and hours, with anger, defensiveness, and an anxiety that this person is going to bulldoze my creative vision, etc. etc.
So the reason that today was great (and the past few days) is because I see that now I am noticing within sixty seconds of being triggered that it is happening and, because I am noticing, I then have a choice of whether to indulge the addiction with “indignation”, “self protection”, “creative integrity”, yadda yadda yadda or simply vibe switch as we do in the Overcoming Negativity Addiction program.
The revelation I had is that even though I love this film project with my life and feel deep loyalty to the story, etc., it is not worth indulging my addiction over, thus creating negative biochemicals in my system. So I can be open, stay calm, and not be attached to having my way in every situation. This person is presenting himself to me as a teacher and mentor, which I think is actually quite nice, but it doesn’t leave a lot of room for a sense of equality between us. I can be lovingly assertive, but at the same time allow him to be as he is, have compassion for the fact that maybe he has negativity addiction too and listen to what wisdom he has to offer.
I never in a million years thought I would value my own peace of mind and alignment over the story I am telling with this film, but I do.
This revelation opened up a lot of really powerful ideas that maybe my ego has been involved too and maybe I could open my mind a little more to this person’s ideas who has been in the business forever and has a lot of expertise with telling good stories.
I think in some ways I am learning the balance between letting go and surrendering and being lovingly assertive. Sometimes it’s tricky to see whcih one of these vibe switches actually feels better. I think that, ultimately, the vibe switch that feels the best in this circumstance is to let go, surrender, and trust that we all want to tell the best story, and the Universe has it handled as I get out of the way. I think the less ego I bring to this process, the happier I’ll be. Whether that makes the best movie or not is up to my Spiritual Guide, who wrote the script through me in the first place. It makes me feel good to say, “Letting go of my ego and going with the flow will create the best movie. All I have to do is let go and trust, keep vibe switching, be loving and kind, and don’t make the project more important than the people.”
Oooh, I like that. “Don’t make the project more important than the people.”
This is so fitting because this entire movie is about Love!!!
Love and Happy Biochemicals,
Denise
